“Reporting good news but not bad news” is the growing pain of young people – Teller Report
“Reporting good news but not bad news” is the growing pain of young people
The Spring Festival is approaching. For many people who live away from home, their hometown has always been their concern. For young people living in a foreign land, will they communicate their real situation with their families at any time? A recent survey of 1,158 young people surveyed by the Social Survey Center of China Youth Daily and the questionnaire network showed that 74.0% of the young people surveyed would “report good news but not bad news” to their families. (January 14, “China Youth Daily”)
“Reporting good news but not bad news” is not only the reality of most young people in foreign land, but also the common mentality of wandering people in foreign land. The reason why there is such a mentality is not to show off, not to need the care and help of family members, or not to miss their family members, but because they are far away in a foreign land and do not want to let their family members worry about them.
When a friend of the author was in college, he often liked to talk to his parents about big and small matters, happy matters, and troublesome matters. Happy things are easy to talk about, but troublesome and distressing things often cause parents to worry. “A child traveling a thousand miles is worried about a mother” is never a word, but a genuine concern, but a long trip that may leave immediately at any time.
From this point of view, young people’s “reporting good news but not bad news” is growth, tenacity in growth, concern for family members, and consideration and responsibility for parents. There are also young people who are reluctant to tell their parents anything until they make a big mistake and even lose their lives. This is not an alarmist, it is a fact. In contrast, such “reporting good news but not bad news” is not growth, but concealment. Compared with the former, such consequences may be better to say.
In the end is “reporting good news but not worrying”, or both good and bad news, it is difficult to have a definite conclusion. Some young people do better: “When you feel sick and feel uncomfortable, you will feel a little uncomfortable, but try not to tell your family. When you are healthy, you will tell your parents about your illness.” There are also young people who think that , If it is some more troublesome situation, hiding from the parents will not solve the problem, then you should tell the parents. “For example, if there is a medical condition, parents can’t wait until they are hospitalized or have major surgery before they get news. If there is any situation, it is a responsibility to tell them in advance.” This kind of understanding is insightful. , but also responsible and commendable.
In fact, for parents, they are willing to know everything about young people, including the joy of success, but also the troubles of failure and misfortune. Therefore, it is difficult to say that there is any fault when young people report good news and bad news. However, after stating things, especially some small things that you can solve, you must clearly tell your parents: I want to try to solve it by myself, learn to grow up, learn to handle things, don’t worry. When there is difficulty, or when it is difficult to handle, I will ask you for help. This may be a more correct attitude. I believe that many young people who have grown up communicate with their parents in this way. From “reporting good news but not bad news” to both good news and bad news, and rationally informing parents, this is the re-growth of young people after growing pains, and it is a deeper understanding and responsibility for their parents.
As a parent, it’s not wrong to worry about your children, and it’s not wrong to be considerate of your children, but you can treat your children’s complaints rationally, analyze them objectively, not show excessive worry, trust your children, and don’t make impulsive choices. Children report good news and bad news.
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